Lament of the Mind

You Are Not My Responsibility

philosophy-in-blue:

thedatingfeminist:

Can we talk some more about how guilt tripping someone for not being interested in you is a really shitty thing to do?

Look, I’m sorry you’re lonely or depressed or  whatever. Those are bad things and having to deal with them isn’t fun. But I am not responsible. It is not my job to sacrifice my autonomy to make you feel better. Your attraction to me does not make your well-being my responsibility.

And to use your unhappiness as a tool to coerce me into a relationship or a sexual situation that I’m not comfortable with makes you a bad person.

Anybody who’s had to put up with this kind of emotional manipulation - you deserved better. You always deserve better. And you aren’t wrong to say no.

Thank you.